What worked in our Homeschool 2012-13

2013
07.07

It has been well over a year and I still feel that my reading “The Minds of Boys” was the best thing I did for our homeschool and my sons.  I feel it gave me the freedom to follow my son’s lead and realize that he not just wants to but needs to be active to learn.  It has transformed our homeschool and has left it more harmonious and enjoyable for all.

I will provide a subject by subject summary of what we tried and what worked and what didn’t work for us this past school year over the next few days.  Big Brother started out the year as a 6 year old and ended it as a 7 year old.  He was officially a first grader but I do not focus on grade level and just go at my son’s pace (one of our success in homeschooling this year).  

Early Morning

2013
06.27

So occasionally, Cisco decides to wake up early.  This morning he woke up about 6 a.m.  I could feel him get wiggly and tried to ignore it then my eyes opened and there he was on his belly with his head up looking at me(this is big for him as he just finally started moving around and rolling a little in bed).  At that point he insisted we get up.  He played with me for awhile then played on the floor.  Big Brother finally woke up and started chatting with Mommy.  Cisco was complaining a little but not too much so Mommy continued to chat with big brother.  Then, mommy looked over, and this is what she found.  A tired little boy passed out on the floor…

Exploring Food

2013
05.30

Cisco loves to fed himself but tended to look at me like I was crazy if I gave him anything sticky or real wet so the speech therapist recommended a sensory meal each day.  I was quickly able to get him to be more adventurous.  I think his hesitation had a lot to do with me mostly giving him breads and other somewhat dry foods he could easily pick up and take a bite without them falling apart.  Here is one of his first sensory meals about a week ago. Now, most of his meals are high sensory. This week he’s eaten, all by hand, oatmeal, quinoa with oil, various foods with sauces that I didn’t pre-rinse like I used to and the list keeps growing. So proud of my little guy.

“Mom, what’s this?”

2013
05.30

My kids and I were going through old pictures.  Cisco worked on eating all the old greeting cards and Big Brother had a great time looking at our old pictures from before he was born.  Then, as we were looking through separate boxes, Big Brother says, “What is this?” and holds up an old negative.  It is interesting to live in a world where my child thinks it is perfectly normal for your pictures to be digitally stored on cameras and computers and perplexed by the need and use of negatives to create photos.  

Many Changes

2013
05.13

I haven’t updated my blog in two months because we have just been too busy.  We’ve had changes in Home, Health, Development & School.  

HOME
Around the time of the Cisco Kid’s surgery, we decided we should look into the possibility of moving into a more accessible home.  It is unclear when and how well Cisco will be walking and we live in a three level townhouse.  The thought of dealing with the worry of a new walker likely using a wheeled device in this house was really worrying me.  My little guy is growing and improving but at his own pace which means each of the phases that his brother went through in a split second, lasts months for our little Cisco Kid.  I remember when his brother was a baby he enjoyed the baby gym mobile for a month or two while Cisco used his happily until he was one, for example.  This also means that learning to walk will be an arduous process and he can find independance much faster in a home where everything is on one level with a level ground yard (our little yard is far from accessible).  

As I don’t think I’ve mentioned on this blog before, my hubby has multiple sclerosis (MS).  Luckily, he is still good on his feet but mobility is sure to be an issue for him at some point too.  It just wasn’t making sense to stay in our beloved townhouse of 13 years anymore if we could move to something more accessible now.   

After 2 months of looking, we have found what seems like a perfect home in a nice neighborhood.  It isn’t as close to our present house as we were hoping but it has all we wanted: single level living, move in condition, level yard with space to play and garden, and wheelchair accessible, all in our budget.  We are so excited about our new detached house but all a little heartbroken to leave our present house and great neighbors.

HEALTH
We also have exciting health news, my hubby just switch his MS medication from a shot to a pill.  He has been getting shots every other day for over 8 years and really didn’t like it, as you might imagine.  He was so happy when the first MS drug in pill form came on the market and his neurologist said he could switch.  He was ecstatic.  It has only been a few days but so far so good.  He did have an issue with hit making him flush at first but dramatically decreased that by eating well with the pill.  He says he has an odd taste in his mouth and hears a swish in his ears at night but is feeling more energetic.  He had already seen an improvement in energy along with less bad days as a result of starting up tea kwon do in the fall with Big Brother.  I really hope this works well for him.

The Cisco kids eyes are doing well.  They do turn in when he is tired but look pretty aligned most of the time.  His OMA is more obvious now without the crossed eyes but it is pretty mild.  It seems to only cause him issues when he wants to really look at something, particularly at a distance.  At our 6 week follow up, his ophthalmologist said his eyes looked great but cautioned us that they could still cross.  His vision therapist said they were looking good but encourages us to do eye exercises daily and he should wear glasses throughout the day.  I do see his glasses doing well for him but he pulls them off more and more.  I get tired of trying and give up.

Cisco has also continued to struggle with weight gain.  He is very thin and below the growth charts but doing well in height and head circumference.  I fluctuate between being concerned and not worrying because he comes from a long line of very thin people.

DEVELOPMENT
The Cisco Kid is growing and improving, now almost 15 months old.  He is standing at his little table grandpa got him for his birthday well and is even pulling himself up and down from a little step stool he uses as a bench.  His PT suggested high top shoes and the all leather Jumping Jack high top baby shoes I got him on Zappos have really helped him in his stability standing up while not having a super rigid sole (I’m usually a big advocate of keeping babies/toddlers shoeless).  He still cannot roll very well and while he sits well unsupported and stands pretty well supported, he is unable to make the transitions for himself.  He is getting increasingly more interested in the world.  He so wants to get to the things he finds interesting and move about on his own as he should be doing developmentally but his little body just doesn’t cooperate.  We ordered him an adapted stroller for special needs kids and the vendor lent us there’s until it comes in.  He loves going for a ride in it.  I’ve asked the PT to see if their supply closet has a walker we can use or some other form of mobility to get our little guy moving as he would like.  He’s also loving My Gym classes.  He has so much fun with the music and circle times, rolling an one of their tumblers, sliding down the not so steep slide on his belly or back, and playing in the ball pit.  I think My Gym has been his best therapy.

Big Brother is doing well too.  He has grown up so much.  He’s almost 7.5.  He’s usually easy to reason with and is generally very helpful with brother.  He gets me things I can’t get to because I’m caring for his brother and is such a great form of entertainment for his little brother in the back seat. He has also greatly improved his skills with self entertainment as we go to doctors appointments and such.  He’s become mister social, striking conversations whenever he can.  He has made good friends with our realtor (who also helped us buy our townhouse pre-children).  Our realtor even came to his recent solo violin recital (I really need to share a video of one of his performances someday soon).  Such a joy to be around except after hanging out a few hours with the neighborhood boys.  Haven’t quite pinpointed the cause.  He too loves My Gym and we try to take him with us to one open gym a week.

SCHOOL
Because of the move, we have ended the “school year” a little early but look forward to getting back to school once we settle in the new house.  Big Brother took his end of the year CAT test we use for proof of progress.  I think he did well but we are still awaiting the official results.  We will be continuing to practice for his upcoming violin group concert that is in early June and hope to get in some good reading time as we pack and prepare for moving.  We just finished the first “Harry Potter” and watched the movie this weekend.  He has asked me to read the Hobbit next.  I try to get him to read to his brother regularly but will have to wait to make it a morning routine again after we get to our new house.  I don’t think next year will look horribly different then this but our move will make some other homeschool groups available to us that we too far before, so who knows.  I’m trying not to out much thought into it until we are settled at the new house.

I think that sums up the past couple months.  Sorry it is so long.  I’ll try not to make it so long before my next post.

Eye Surgery Day

2013
03.14


Today, the magnificent, the brave and the happy Cisco Kid (aka DS2) had eye surgery to correct his strabismus (his eyes turned in). He handled it bravely. The worst part was post-op. They had him wake up without me before they called me in (after I told them otherwise) and he was screaming crying as a nursed carried him to me (I’m sure he was so scared). Then he nursed so much he threw up. He was very upset screaming until they took out the IV and dad put him in the Ergo.

Our opthamologist is very experienced with this surgery so we opted to stay with this doctor eventhough the Surgical Center he uses does surgeries for babies through adults. Major contrast to our Children’s Hospital experience. Little appreciation for my anxiety. They had 4 waiting rooms for each pre-op phase and dad and big brother (who unexpectedly had to come with us) had to stay in the downstairs lobby. They also wouldn’t let me go to them during the operation for support. Not bad. They did a good job clinically. Just little compassion.

Once we got in the familiar car, he slept happily. After continuing to sleep for awhile, he nursed well and then threw it up again. Luckily after another bit of sleep, I only nursed him 5 minutes and the milk stayed down. I gradually increased the time as he asked and all has been well so far. Around 3 he played in our laps a little, went back to sleep (I napped too as I hadn’t really slept since 3 a.m.). Played in my lap. Slept some more then decided he was pretty much feeling back to normal. He’s been playing happily for about 1.5 hours. Hopefully he’ll be ready for bed soon. I know I am.

Now to wait and work aggressively on eye exercises. The surgery was done so young to give the best probability of success but his brain could still reject the correction and the eyes could cross again. There are some studies that show combining surgery with vision therapy can increase the chance of success (Unfortunately, Opthamologists and Optometrists don’t often play well together to get a better understanding of this). So far his eyes look much straighter and I not even noticing the OMA today (the surgery is not expected to correct that). I’ve been impressed with how well I’ve gotten him to track things this afternoon/evening. The picture above was taken by dad this evening.

Baby’s 1st Birthday

2013
02.18

We had a great day celebrating my baby, DS2’s, 1st Birthday.  Mom made buckwheat pancakes for breakfast.  Dad made tamales for lunch and dinner (with help from Mom, a friend and big brother, DS1).  Mom made cake and ice cream for dessert.  He got to taste a little of everything.  All firsts and loved them all.  Hope it agrees with his digestion.  We had some of our friends over we don’t get to see too often.  It was nice visiting but the little guy got a bit overwhelmed at times with all the visitors including loud big kids.  He stuck close to mom but seemed to enjoy the attention.

Today also had me thinking about the last year. An intense but oh so worth it home birth. The vision issues. The discovery that our wonderful little man has what is probably a genetic neurological condition. An older son making leaps in his development and maturity. Even with the ups and downs, I feel so blessed. My children are happy. I have a great husband and my choldren have a great father. I’m feeling confident that while things may take our little guy a little longer then “average,” he’ll be just fine and I’ll love him no matter what, just as I do his big brother. I look forward to enjoying the next year and years with my little family.

I have a goal to enjoy each day with my boys, not getting caught up in the less important things in life because childhood is so fleeting.

My Response to the President’s Plan to Create Manditory Preschool

2013
02.16


I agreed with a lot of what President Obama said during his state of the union except that we should have mandated preschool throughout the country. More school is not the answer especially when we do such a poor job providing a good education in the grades the country already provides, K-12.

We are still following an archaic system that was designed to produce good factory workers and a system that is not often well taylored toward boys. Guarian and Stevens explains in “The Minds of Boys: Saving Our Sons From Falling Behind in School and Life” why our present school system is biased against at least half our population which doesn’t learn well sitting and listening but needs to do and interact to best learn. We also have an SOL dependent system that isn’t working that results in teachers actually saying to their kids that they have to do well or their teacher will loose her job. SOLs only tie the hands of the best teachers in our education system. In addition, we have children that otherwise seem normal medicated to get them to stay still in class during a time of growth when movement and interaction is key to their understanding of the world.

We are out of touch with what children need. They don’t need more time in school. They need dedicated primary care givers that involve them with their lives, love them and teach them about the world as they interact with it. You are asking too much to expect a teacher of 20+ students to be able to provide this to their young students. We need to educate parents on how to engage their children and incorporate them into their lives. We need to educate parents on how and why to prevent pregnancy until they are ready to dedicate the time and attention needed to raise the next generation. That is the answer.

Vision Update

2013
01.26

DS2 had his vision therapy appointment today.  She said that his tracking has improved as I’d observed but it seems there is still a slight favor for the left eye.  We are going to move forward with surgery.  It is scheduled for March.  Until then, we are going to keep his glasses on during the waking hours and patch 1-2 hours each evening.  We are increasing the glasses use so that he can focus at a reasonable distance to work on teaming his eyes throughout the day and increase my opportunities to do vision exercises with him.

In other news, DS2 is sitting up without support.  Much like his brother when he started sitting up but a few months later.  He will stay sitting up for 10-20 minutes then falls to the side or back.  I keep a Boppy around him for safe falls.

Sign Language

2013
01.22

Over the holidays we realized DS2 had started signing “milk”. He had done it for probably 10 days before we realized he wasn’t just examining his hand. We were so excited. We had been signing to him for awhile like we did with his brother. They both started signing at the same age. Another hint that cognition seems to be intact. He soon after added the signs for “more” and “Mama”. Yay!